don't u ever get tired of Wheaties?David, my only boyfriend, now gone eight years, once asked early in our relationship . . . not really . . . he preferred the variety pack, in both men and cereal and by the time we went our separate ways so did i . . . here's my theory: if u only have had sex with one person, the person u "love," monogamy might be possible, but once u have tried the variety pack, u inevitably begin seeking the thrill of the new . . . and don't pretend u don't know what i mean: is there any more powerful--or fleeting--aphrodisiac than the desire of a hot man when he cruises u for the first time? . . . that's why i'm highly skeptical of gay marriage, particularly for men who have moved to New York and other urban areas to escape the oppressive conformity and boredom of their pasts . . . yet most of us arrive in these sexual candy stores believing that it is here we will find the guy who will complete us--along with our fame and fortune--because we have been so thoroughly brainwashed by breeder propaganda . . . don't get me wrong, some of my best friends are heterosexual, and i believe that the institution of marriage is good for (some of) them and for society, but c'mon guys why buy a cow when milk is so cheap? . . . can't we develop our own relationship models? . . . i may still love u tomorrow, but that doesn't mean i always will want to have sex with u and i'm conservative enough to believe that monogamy, not legal benefits, should be the goal of marriage . . . besides, did ya know that if u get hitched in Vermont, u have to live there for six months to dissolve the union?